Risks Of Non-Romantic Sexual Relationships!

One-third of sexual relationships in Chicago lack exclusivity, says a new study, conducted to point out risks of non-romantic sexual relationships.

In the survey of 783 heterosexual adults, one in 10 men and women reported that both they and their partner had slept with other people.

Anthony Paik, a sociologist in the UI College of Liberal Arts and Sciences and author of the study, said the study is important as concurrent partnerships speed up the spread of sexually transmitted diseases.

"The United States has seen a major shift toward non-romantic sexual partnerships -- people becoming sexually involved when they are just casually dating or not dating at all. A quarter of the respondents became sexually involved while casually dating and a fifth did so as friends or acquaintances," Paik said.

Respondents, ranging in age from 18 to 60, were asked how many people they had been with during their most recent relationship. They also estimated how many partners their partner had during that time. Sexual involvement was defined as genital contact.

Overall, 17 per cent of men and 5 per cent of women acknowledged that they had been with someone else. Another group -- 17 per cent of women and 8 per cent of men -- said they’d been exclusive but their partner had not. Twelve per cent of women and 10 per cent of men said neither of them had been monogamous.

Being involved with a friend increased the likelihood of non-monogamy by 44 per cent for women and 25 per cent for men. Involvement with an acquaintance or stranger increased the odds by 30 per cent for women and 43 per cent for men.

The study also found that respondents who got along with each other’s parents were less likely to have multiple sex partners. Paik said people are less likely to risk a relationship when they take family stakeholders into consideration.

Paik said the research does not lead to the conclusion that efforts should be made to revive dating. "People can make their own choices, but we hope this information will be useful as they weigh the risks and rewards of non-romantic sexual relationships. We encourage people be aware of the potential for sexual concurrency and take appropriate precautions to avoid sexually transmitted infections," he said.

The study has been published in the latest issue of the journal Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health .

Source: ANI

What is SHE thinking while sex?

A Hollywood hunk, ex-lovers, blue film scene and items in the grocery store are the things which women think of while having sex.

Even the sexiest women can get thoughtful between the sheets. Some women reveal that every thing which impresses them gush to their mind while lovemaking.

The highest on the list is fantasizing one's favorite actor. Women have confessed that when they are bored with sex with husband they restore to fantasize handsome hunks, to get elated.

Some women also claim to be thinking about accessories during sex, as this enhances their pleasure. Women who are in and out of relationships, while lovemaking often think of their X lover and compare it with their present experience.

“I've been married twice and had many lovers and to be honest, with past lovers I've been so bored in bed, I've taken to compiling mental grocery lists and calculating exactly how many shoes are in the wardrobe. Most wives are taken for granted. But how we'd like to be taken by a muscular-thighed Adonis with pecs appeal,” said author Kathy Lette.

This mental drift occurs only when love is lost in a relationship. All the women who have reported to be thoughtful during lovemaking, have also confirmed that they suffered unsatisfied sexual life.

The most marked thought of fantasizing another man or actor, shows the women aspiration and thus the man needs to understand his girls changing needs.

Source: Agency

Even Sex Lives Hit by Recession!

NEW YORK: The global economic crisis is taking its toll on older Americans' sex lives, according to an AARP survey.

Between 2004 and 2009, the percentage of people in their 50s who said they had sex at least once a week took about a 10-point plunge for both sexes.

Women dropped to 32% from 43%, and men to 41% from 49%, in the sex survey of 1,670 Americans aged 45 and older.

"Financial worries tend to seep into all parts of a couple's life together," said Dr Pepper Schwartz, a sexologist at the University of Washington in Seattle.

"It's hard for some people to feel warm and sexy when they are afraid of losing their home or they have already lost their job. People complain of feeling distant, disconnected, and emotionally bound up," she said.

Most other age groups saw a drop in their frequency of sex, too, according to AARP, a non-profit membership organisation for people 50 years and older.

Among all the survey respondents, 21% of men and 11% of women admitted that they cheated during a current or recent long-term relationship.

About 12% of both sexes said that their partner had cheated on them.

Surprisingly, however, few people said the cheating did irreparable harm to their relationship. About 40% reported that unfaithfulness had no effect at all, about 30% thought it only caused temporary tension, and 6% or less said it did irreparable harm.

Source: Reuters

Having sex- more Ouch than Ahhh!

London: Having sex can end up causing more pain than expected - researchers have found about 18 million Britons have injured themselves during or after a romp.

Pulled muscles followed by back injuries, carpet burns and bruised elbows and knees are some of the most common complaints, reports The Daily Express.

Boffins found the bedroom to be only the fifth most dangerous place to have sex. The stairs came second in the danger list, followed by the car and the shower. One in ten people or their partner fell off the bed. One in 50 toppled off the washing machine, according to the poll of 1,000 adults by phonepiggybank.com. Some got hurt making love in the loo, or in a cupboard at work. Two per cent of the total polled were left with broken bones after sex.

Source: ANI

How to tell your lover about your past?

It’s been long since you’ve moved on your last breakup and you’ve taken the next step by finding your true love. The only glitch that seems to deter you from taking the plunge is the fact that you haven’t really told him about your previous affair. It’s not that you didn’t want to tell him, it’s just that you were not to sure of him and now that you’re completely for him guess it’s time to spill the beans on your past affair.

It can be indeed tricky to divulge your past to your present flame but, it’s indispensable if you want to move on with the person in entirety. To help you out in moving on and letting your heart out to the person you love the most now, here we are offering you a few tips about divulging your past to the man of your present.

Be sure of him

You can’t divulge all of your past to someone you aren’t sure of. First and foremost, try and be sure of the fact that he’s the man you’d like to spend your future with. Only when you’re certain about your compatibility that you should open up to him and dig into the past.

Play your cards tactfully

You have to play your cards real tactfully when it come sot the game of love. First observe how much of the truth is your man putting across. If you believe in what he’s told you, only then should you take the next step and tell him your truth. In some cases, the man is just not ready to reveal anything about his past, also, some men let the past be, if that’s the case with your man too then, it’s okay to not reveal your pasts when you’ve mutually decided for it.

Let the process be gradual

You can’t be jumping the gun when in mood for a revelation. Please take gradual steps towards it. Don’t just tell him everything on a particular day, first prepare him for it, see his mood and ask him if he wants to know about you.

Don’t choose a public place

Try and tell him the entire truth in private rather than choosing a public place for the same coz the last thing you want to happen is the entire world getting to know of your secret.

Be ready for an adverse reaction

Your man might be understanding and loving but, you gotta be prepared for an adverse reaction post your confession to him. A man might just react in an unexpected way and say things which are indicative of a non-acceptance but, be prepared for the worse and try and make him understand why it took you so long to reveal the truth.

4 Compliments to Melt His Heart!

Have you ever wondered how easy it is to charm a woman, than charm a man? By simply praising her attire, admiring her dressing sense and going gaga about her beauty, you have her drooling over your charisma.

But, how about men? I mean, how do you compliment them, in fact what do you compliment them on to sweep them off their feet?

Girl, here’s your guide on how to compliment your guy. Following are the four things to say and melt his heart…

• It boosts a man’s ego to hear of how well he can entertain his woman. So, if you tell him that he brings a smile on your face, or his jokes make you laugh, it surely is gonna have him smiling away to glory.

• Most men are complete gadget freaks. So, instead of labeling him as a techno geek, admire his passion for his machines. Your man would totally respect you for showing so much appreciation towards his equipments.

• As brave as your man might look on the forefront, he might not be as tough from the inside too. So, when your man is feeling too low about something, cheer him up with your warm words. This would boost his spirits and he’d always value you for standing by him during rough times.

• Now, the icing on the cake. Every man would love to be acknowledged for his sexual prowess. So, the next time you’re done with the hot romp, let him know how truly he satisfies your sex hunger. Boy, he’ll totally be drooling over you!

Source: Ekta Oberoi

Chocolate and Sex.. Ummmmmmm

Chocolate has always had a strong association with sexual life but now it seems to have taken over the sexual feeling among women. A study reveals that a third of women dream about chocolate during the day in comparison to only 18 per cent who think about sex.

Around 2.3 million women have admitted that they have the sweet treat at least three times a day.

On the other hand, six in 10 men have sex on their minds almost all day and 11 per cent crave for chocolate.

A survey was done on 2,000 women and the result showed that more than one in five women would happily say goodbye to their sex lives before chocolate.

The reason as detected was for women chocolate is not only the form of sweet treat but it is their way of getting rid of stress and tension. Chocolate is their source of comfort and it helps them cheer up.

Chocolate seems to force women deprive their partner of sex. So, the advice for men would be, to keep his women away from chocolate for a committed sexual life.

Source: Agency

Tips To Get Him In The Mood!

Your man definitely craves for something unusually seductive. So, we bring to you 5 tips to get him in the mood:

• If your guy stop taking interest in the sex you're having it's probably because he's a bit bored. So the hottest thing you could do is to tell him that he can ask for anything he craves for, even if you choose not to give him what he’s asking for. Your guy will be turned on by your efforts of understanding and listening.

• All men love watching porn and if you both watch porn together on a steamy night, then your guy is definitely going to get aroused watching you becoming out-of-control and mimicking the women in the porn flick. So, get into some serious role play and scale new heights of desire.

• Men have a love-hate relationship with your sex toys. Some love them, as they take the pressure off their performance and some feel jealous, as they don’t have long lasting batteries like these machines to keep the rock n roll going but what your guy may not be telling you is that he loves watching you use. So, get down, dirty and start off a steamy sex romp.

• For a hot and steamy sex session in the bedroom, it is very important to stimulate his mind. Don’t jump into the sack right away. Start with a nice shoulder massage or sit on his lap and kiss him all over his body. After all it is very important to charge the machine before using it, right!

• Men get turned on when you put on his shirts, spray his strong manly scent and seduce him because at the end of the day fun lies in experimentation right!

Source: Lovely Malhotra

Tips For SIZZLING XEX Session!

So, you think you know every trick to satisfy partner? Read on lady, and practice these tips for sizzling sex session:

• Initiate Sex

Men love it and get easily aroused when women initiate sex. It takes off the pressure of rejection from their mind and thus helps in having a thrilling satisfying experience. Take this step and see the change in your partner's behaviour.

• Have A Great Sense Of Humour

A good sense of humour always gives an edge to men when they hit on a woman, so, remember this point as it will help you to deal with any kind of embarrassing sex moment.

• Please Your Man With More Oral Sex

Men love it when you go down there, as this is a sign of complete acceptance for them. It not only makes them feel great but also makes them feel more secure about their relationship and sex life.

Source: Lovely Malhotra

Ultimate Sex Romp with Sensate Focus Sex

Heard the next big thing in the world of pleasure and sex? It’s SENSATE FOCUS SEX.

What is it?
Rediscover each other and renew your sex life with senate focus sex. The process involves personal awareness through basic touch. Sensate focus involves a series of behavioral practices that involve each partner paying more attention to their own sexual sensations.

How does it work?
The exercise focuses on making sex pleasure-oriented rather than goal-oriented. The couples gain pleasure from these exercises and enjoy the fact that they are touching, caressing and feeling each other’s body, without the pressure of producing a response from either partner.

What are its benefits?
The exercises in sensate focus sex are devised for couples to help them deal with lack of orgasm, performance anxiety and rapid ejaculation. You are better aware of your as well as your lover’s body. There’s better sex communication and in turn your relationship is strengthened. Your sexual excitement is taken to the next level and hence you don’t fear performance pressure and there’s absolutely no fear of failure.
Take you sex sessions to another level by feeling purely the “touch” of your partner. Enjoy a rocking’ session and have the best sex of your life.
But, there are certain rules that one has to follow during the process:
• Genitals and breasts are restricted for the first few sessions.
• Spoken responses are again a no-no, unless you’re in an uncomfortable position.
• Don’t draw sexual response initially.
• Every sexual experience has to be followed with the next step, but slowly and steadily.
Take your time to unwind yourself, before you begin with the ultimate sex of your life. Make your setting a little sensual, play your favourite music and do all it takes to set the mood right.
Once you’ve done that, begin with the following sessions.

Session One: Make sure your partner too is in a comfortable position. Begin by gentle strokes. Keep genitals and breasts out of focus, but notice the warmth of your partner’s body as you continue to touch his/body gently.
Now, allow your partner to do the same. Focus on the sensations that his/her touch is generating.
This will soon turn into a sensual massage. Continue doing the same for some time, focusing purely on the touch.

Session Two: Once you’ve mastered stage one, now is the time to include genitals and breasts. Guide your partner to where you’d like to be touched. Reciprocate the same to your partner. He/she will lead you to work up your way for a more pleasurable experience.

Session Three: Now, repeat the above process, but this time simultaneously. Communicate your sexual desire to your partner, keeping in mind that it is pleasure that matters and not orgasm. Do it without getting trapped with the aim of achieving the big O.

Session Four: Eliciting pleasure from each others “touch” is the basic mantra of sensate focus sex. However, if you’re dealing with sexual incompatibility, it’s time you consult a sex specialist.

All set to have the most ultimate sex session of your life?

Source: Ekta Oberoi

Are You the Tempting Seductress in Bed?

Love making is a super-sexed up game for you. You cuddle, kiss and satisfy each other to the core. In short, you’re having a rocking time between the sheets! But, is your partner too enjoying the romp as much?

He’s typically the timid types and shies away from discussing the act of love-making. He never discusses his sexual fantasies too. Stuck in a tricky situation, for you’re not sure if your man likes your sexual moves?

Fret not lady. Here’s your guide to know if he likes your sexual prowess. The following signs reveal if your man finds you the tempting seductress…

• He watches you while you make love to him

He watches you while you tease and please him. Men derive pleasure in watching their lady do the erotic activity. He’s already aroused by your moves, just that he wants to see you making love to him.

• He goes slow and steady

He’s not in a hurry to reach the big O. Men love to gratify the woman they are with, and if your man is taking it slow, kissing and caressing every inch of you, that only means he’s trying to make you feel as good.



• He just can’t get enough of you

He’s still holding you in his arms, kissing your forehead and just feeling your touch. Lady! Your guy is totally smitten by you and even after a rocking sex romp; he can’t get enough of you!!!