Thursday, May 6, 2010

How to tell your lover about your past?


It’s been long since you’ve moved on your last breakup and you’ve taken the next step by finding your true love. The only glitch that seems to deter you from taking the plunge is the fact that you haven’t really told him about your previous affair. It’s not that you didn’t want to tell him, it’s just that you were not to sure of him and now that you’re completely for him guess it’s time to spill the beans on your past affair.

It can be indeed tricky to divulge your past to your present flame but, it’s indispensable if you want to move on with the person in entirety. To help you out in moving on and letting your heart out to the person you love the most now, here we are offering you a few tips about divulging your past to the man of your present.

Be sure of him
You can’t divulge all of your past to someone you aren’t sure of. First and foremost, try and be sure of the fact that he’s the man you’d like to spend your future with. Only when you’re certain about your compatibility that you should open up to him and dig into the past.

Play your cards tactfully
You have to play your cards real tactfully when it come sot the game of love. First observe how much of the truth is your man putting across. If you believe in what he’s told you, only then should you take the next step and tell him your truth. In some cases, the man is just not ready to reveal anything about his past, also, some men let the past be, if that’s the case with your man too then, it’s okay to not reveal your pasts when you’ve mutually decided for it.

Let the process be gradual
You can’t be jumping the gun when in mood for a revelation. Please take gradual steps towards it. Don’t just tell him everything on a particular day, first prepare him for it, see his mood and ask him if he wants to know about you.


Don’t choose a public place
Try and tell him the entire truth in private rather than choosing a public place for the same coz the last thing you want to happen is the entire world getting to know of your secret.

Be ready for an adverse reaction
Your man might be understanding and loving but, you gotta be prepared for an adverse reaction post your confession to him. A man might just react in an unexpected way and say things which are indicative of a non-acceptance but, be prepared for the worse and try and make him understand why it took you so long to reveal the truth.

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