You're fit—and strong. And when it comes to bedding your girl, you nail it fast and hard, just the way she likes it. Problem is, it's not the way she LOVES it. This is really great news, because slower sex has major payoffs for you: To begin with, it takes females more time than males to get turned on and reach orgasm. Plus, having sex at a decelerated pace intensifies pleasure and lets you and your bedmate bond more deeply because you can explore each other's bodies and experiment with new kinds of foreplay.
This is really great news, because slower sex has major payoffs for you: To begin with, it takes females more time than males to get turned on and reach orgasm. Plus, having sex at a decelerated pace intensifies pleasure and lets you and your bedmate bond more deeply because you can explore each other's bodies and experiment with new kinds of foreplay.
There is, of course, one practical matter that needs to be addressed: How to contain a man's excitement in order to extend the play. And moreover, while languorous sex sounds hot in theory, what the hell do you do to fill all that time? No worries—you're about to learn how to master the art of the slowie (the polar opposite of a quickie). "The key is building up excitement gradually
Men need more time to recover from sex than women do. It's called a "refractory period," and there's little you can do to speed it up. Meaning, if you get off quickly, that's it—end of show. Two words: stronger orgasms. The slower you take things, and the more times you get close to the edge without going over, the more powerful the release will be when you finally climax.
The stronger the muscles that control your orgasm are, the longer you'll last during sex. To strengthen them, contract the muscles you use to stop urinating for two seconds and release. Repeat 20-60 times daily.
Take deep breathes during sex. Forget reciting baseball stats. If you want to last longer, you need to slow your breathing down when you are close to ejaculating. Focusing on how quickly you inhale and exhale can help you avoid climaxing before you're ready.
While women just have one G spot, men have the equivalent of two: one near the prostate, and one on top of the penis, just below the head. That's why it's important to alternate between long and short strokes. You'll last longer, excite her, and get the extra stimulation you might other wise have missed banging it like a jackhammer.
Start before you hit the bedroom
you can draw out doing the deed by setting the stage hours in advance. Send him a naughty text early in the day—a line like "Save your energy....You're really gonna need it later" should do the trick. Then, while the two of you are out for dinner or drinks, reveal something sexy you want to try later and have him do the same. "Sharing your desires with each other ensures you're on the same page mentally (and later physically) and also helps you connect on an emotional level.Then seize the opportunity to unveil your plan for the rest of the evening. Tell him "Tonight I fully intend to take my time pleasing you." And if it's feasible, lay your hand on his thigh as you say it. "Physical contact stimulates the hormone oxytocin, which makes you feel happy, relaxed, and close to each other.
Instigate a sexy clothes tease
Instead of viewing clothes as obstacles that need to be shed ASAP, use them as seduction tools, Prolong the disrobing process by taking turns stripping off each other's bodies one by one. Lift the bottom of his shirt to expose his lower abs, and run your tongue all over it. Switch between tender moves and wild ones, like directing him to remove your underwear using only his teeth. You'll probably be so turned on by this point that you'll want to fast- forward to intercourse. Resist the temptation.
Get wet Together
Before hitting the sheets, lead him into the bathroom and indulge in a long shower. "The warm water relaxes you, priming you for more intense arousal. "Take your time massaging soap onto one another's bodies and shampooing each other's hair to awaken nerve endings." After getting all sudsy, embrace, and rub your hands over his back and butt, enjoying the slippery sensation of skin to-skin contact. Spend some time making out too.
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