Getting married is often portrayed in rosy terms. A religious ceremony followed by an exciting reception can seem to be a wonderful start to the merging of two lives into one. But all too often the sad reality is that such unions don't last. It may be for a number of reasons.1. You're not sure you love your intended. Naturally, you may get cold feet before the ceremony. Any smart person can be expected to draw back from the prospect of a life-long union with one person until one of you dies. Since no one can predict how things will turn out, you don't know how the next fifty years will work for you both as a couple. So you need everything in your corner, especially love.
2. You're not ready to stop playing the field. If you enjoy the company of many others as well as your betrothed, you're not ready to settle down with one person. While it can be fun to flirt or have a dating fling, these things need to be left at the door when the groom carries his bride over the threshold. In marriage, you can't have your cake and eat it too.
3. Your finances aren't stable. If you are unemployed, partially employed, earn low income, or have few benefits, you may want to delay getting married. While money is not a good main reason to get married or wait, it certainly is a vital contributing factor.
4. You don't have similar outlooks. Everyone has differing opinions, of course. But if your significant other maintains strong opinions that are very different from yours, it may be a good idea to delay marriage. Work on your differences first and get married later. Otherwise, you may end up fighting all the time.
5. You can't agree on relationships with others. If you fight over how to discipline the children, how to manage current in-law dilemmas, and whether either of you is flirting with co-workers, postpone the marriage and work on these issues. They are significant enough to warrant time before the wedding to sort through them.
Give your relationship time to mature before making a life-long commitment. Keep in mind the old saying, "Marry in haste, repent in leisure."
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