There's somebody in your social circle that you're interested in, maybe you've got her number, or even been on a date or two. In each case it's likely that you want to take things sexual, but you don't really know how. You don't want things to remain as they are for too long, as the girl will start seeing you as a friend, or worse, a provider rather than a lover. You don't want to lunge in suddenly with a kiss or grope, the transition needs to be made smoothly, here's how:
1. Don't talk to her like she's your friend:
Sexual tension won't be generated if you're having casual conversations with her, or talking about her man problems. To create the sexual tension, you need be having conversations that: challenge her; tease her; or make her feel emotions. By challenging her, getting her to prove herself to you, she can see that you are the chooser and she must win over your approval. Teasing her is a brilliant way to increase the sexual tension, anything where she is laughing and playfully hitting you will help you greatly escalate things sexually. Try to make her feel emotions, talk to her about her passions, what she desires and her previous encounters of being in love. Relationship talk - what she is searching for in a relationship - is also good.
2. Touch her in the right way:
You can't interact physically with a girl in a friendly manner and expect her to feel a sexual connection. A friend would touch her on the arm or kiss her on the cheek when meeting; but there are two ways that you can escalate touch in a physical way: playful touching and sexual touching. Playful touching is fairly safe things like tickling her, play-fighting, poking her, etc. - but it still creates sexual tension. Sexual touching is putting your arm around her, touching her hair or touching her hands (for these you can use an excuse like looking at her jewelery or hair accessories if you need to). These are all actions which lovers do, and her friends don't. It is important to carry out a number of these to make sure that you stay clear of the "just friends" zone.
3. Be seductive:
So now you are able to talk to her, and touch her in a sexual manner, but then what? You now need to be able to act seductive towards her. If you are acting like her friend, there will be no form of sexual thoughts running through her mind. The factors to focus on when stepping up the seduction are:
Hold strong, passionate eye contact.
Slow your speech, deepening your voice.
Look at her like you want her.
Gaze at her lips and leave pauses where you just begin to look at each other.
If she is comfortable in this situation or returns your seductive gazes, it's on!
Follow the above advice and you will no longer need to worry about letting a girl know that you are interested, or when to move in for the kiss. Most importantly, you won't need to fear falling into the 'friends' category.
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