Compliment her body…Get what you want

Do you know what a compliment about her body can do? It can really get you what you were looking for to break the ice. Trust me this is a wonderful way to take the relationship to the next level.

How to say nice things to women can go a long way, perhaps towards winning points in the love game, plus it just feels nice to know you’ve made someone feel good about her.
Are you speculating what you can say to a woman you’re fascinated about without emerging sleazy or irritating? Do you want to make a good impression on a woman you just started dating?

The best way is to compliment her body. When you move towards a woman's body, use your tongue to its complete potential.

Below are the few points you may compliment her on:

Hair: Don’t make it too extravagant. Just compliment her on the basis of how her hair smells or how shiney her hair is. Please do not get into styling tips and all.

Breasts: Something sexual will most likely turn her off and make her think you are a pervert. You can praise her on certain body parts. Shun the potentially unpleasant terms-boobs, knockers, etc.

Lips: Start with “you have a lovely smile” that can take the discussion further. Speak size, shape, and colour. Be specific about features inimitable to her.

Butt: Most of the girls are not happy with the shape of their butt. But if you convince her that you love it: Adore it, claim it, name it, pay attention to it, the very next moment the girl is your's dude.

When you accolade a woman, stick to compliments that you truly believe and not just things you think she wants to hear. She will know if you’re faking it and that’s worse than no compliment at all.

Source: Megha Chutervedi

SEX!! so early

Children, in UK, as young as seven years of age should be taught about sex! 7 year olds to be 'taught about sex.

"We want to give young people the facts so that they can stay safe and healthy. We also want young people to understand the importance of marriage and other stable relationships - these are the bedrock of family life, the best way to bring up children and the kind of relationships we want young people to develop as they get older," he said.

But Norman Wells, from the Family Education Trust, said the new guidelines will deprive children of their moral scope.

"This draft guidance will confirm the fears of many parents that compulsory sex education will be used to indoctrinate their children into thinking that there are no moral absolutes when it comes to sexual expression," he said.

"In the name of non-judgmentalism, the Government's approach is abandoning young people to the shifting sands of relativism and depriving them of the moral compass they so desperately need.
"Contrary to the Government's claims, introducing sex education at an early age runs the risk of breaking down children's natural sense of reserve.

"Far from being a hindrance, children's natural inhibitions and sense of modesty in talking about sexual matters are healthy and provide a necessary safeguard against both sexual abuse and casual attitudes towards sexual intimacy later on," he stated.

Source: Agency

SEX! Go on, and on, and on...

Researchers surveying people aged 57-85 have found that many seniors continued their intimacy in the bedroom.

The study conducted at the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago, and also a part of the National Social Life, Health and Aging Project, found a majority of senior citizens were sexually active.

“Older people can and should have very active sex lives, and the idea that they don’t is a societal misconception. The need for intimacy and contact with another person doesn’t change with age,” the New York Daily News quoted Dr. Dennis Lin, director of the psychosexual medicine program at Beth Israel Medical Center, as saying.

Boffins further discovered that older men were more likely to have sex and were more open to it than older women.

University of Chicago associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology Stacy Tessler Lindau, who worked on the research, explained: “Women tend to outlive marriage. Men tend to live with their spouse until they die. So there are fewer older men around to choose as sexual partners.”

JB Berns, author of “Do It or Age Quickly”, added: “There’s no reason a man or a woman can’t have sex regularly into their 80s.”

Source: ANI

Is your ex ruining you life?

First love can be joyful, passionate and intense, but if you’re looking for happiness in later life, it’s best to avoid it altogether, says a new research.

In a book called Changing Relationships , a collection of new research papers by Britain's leading sociologists, edited by Dr Malcolm Brynin, principal research officer at the Institute for Social and Economic Research at the University of Essex, the claims have been made.

According to Brynin, the euphoria of puppy love can damage future relationships, reports the Guardian . "Remarkably, it seems that the secret to long-term happiness in a relationship is to skip a first relationship," said Brynin.

"In an ideal world, you would wake up already in your second relationship,” the expert said.

While searching for the ingredients of successful long-term partnerships, Brynin found that intense first loves could set unrealistic benchmarks, against which we judge future relationships.

"If you had a very passionate first relationship and allow that feeling to become your benchmark for a relationship dynamic, then it becomes inevitable that future, more adult partnerships will seem boring and a disappointment," he said. Adults in successful long-term partnerships are those who have taken a calm, pragmatic view of what they need from a relationship, Brynin found.

"The problems start if you try not only to get everything you need for an adult relationship, but also strive for the heights of excitement and intensity you had in your first experience of love. The solution is clear: if you can protect yourself from intense passion in your first relationship, you will be happier in your later relationships,” he said.

Source: Agency

Men Who Help Their Women Get More Sex!

Sydney: Men who devote lots of time to paid work and household chores get more sex.

And the same applies to women.

These are the conclusion of a new US study of almost 7000 married couples, reports The Sydney Morning Herald.

Published in the Journal of Family Issues, the study denies the ideology that the "time crunch" has killed passion stone dead.

"As life gets busier and time gets tighter, a select group of go-getter spouses can successfully balance multiple time commitments," say the authors, Constance Gager, of Montclair State University, New Jersey, and Scott Yabiku, of Arizona State University.

Barbara Pocock, the director of the Centre for Work and Life at the University of South Australia, in a study of Australian working women found resentment over housework killed libido.

"Women`s feelings about their husband were shaped by perceptions of fairness around housework", she said. "If the resentment factor was high that`s when their sex life was not great. The best sex aid a man could use was a vacuum cleaner."

The US researchers said: "The much-lamented speed-up of everyday life … does not appear to have adverse effects on sexual frequency."

Source: ANI

When SEX takes a backseat…

Times of cuddling and caring, moments of erotic fantasies and years of marriage. Is monotony killing your sexual life? Has sex taken a backseat?

Here are a few tips to pump up your boring night and add a bit of erotica into your life…

Sex up the ambiance

If you’re able to create the right kind of ambience, you wouldn’t have to try too hard in bed. The ambience will be a catalyst for the two of you to switch on to your erotic mode. Change your old curtains and bed sheet to give the room a fresh feel. Sex up your bedroom with accessories in bright colours. Play on some light music and burn some aroma candles to induce sensuality in the air.

Dress up for him/her

When was the last time you “dressed up” to heat up the scene? For once, get rid of that comfortable T-shirt and slip into a pair of sexy boxers. Woman, forget grocery shopping and invest some time in lingerie shopping. Seeing each other inside out is okay, but that doesn’t mean you take each for granted. Gift each other some hot inner wear to spice things up.

Sensuality in bathroom

repare a hot bubble bath for the two of you. Scented candles, frothy bathing gels, fragrant lotions and the two of you wiping and scrubbing each other. Your gentle touches will help the two of you get closer once again and unfold your desires.

Source: Ekta Oberoi

Sex: 13 Times a Day for a Man!

London: An average man thinks about sex 13 times a day, according to a new poll.

A website questioned 3,000 people to come up with the finding.

Results showed that comparatively an average woman thinks of sex just fives time a day.

And, even though men think of sex at least a dozen times a day, they have it just twice a week, or 104 times a year.

"Men are well known for thinking about sex a lot but to find out exactly how often they do is staggering,” a news daily quoted the market research firm as stating.

It added, "It seems blokes have sex on the brain whether they are in a dry spell or jumping between the sheets on a regular basis."

However, three quarters of men were happy with the amount of sex they were getting.

Source: ANI

Steamy Sex Fantasies!

To add some more passion in your sex life, people have fantasies. Some are a about regular sexual intercourse while others are a bit wild in nature.

Some are straight out from various porn movies. It is not really a bad idea to get down that dirty at times. It just ends up spicing up your sex life, might be to a very large extent at times.

Here are some of the fantasies that would brace up your sex life…

Cool it down!

Bored of the regular sex in bed, take it out! Some couples love to have sex in their balconies, washrooms and kitchen. But some like to brace it up with ice cubes. During a hot summer afternoon, covering your bodies up with ice cubes and as the sex-ssion starts to get a bit steamy, the ice cubes start to melt. Exchanging body heat with the cool sensations in your body is a great sex stimulant. It might be tough to bear the melting ice, but the process of heating up your partner is sure to keep you charged up.

With clothes on

Having sex with clothes on, is something a lot of couples tend to fantasize about. There’s a different fun when you see the clothes coming off slowly, but there’s a different fun in feeling up the erogenous zones from over a thin layer and then hearing your partner moan! As you try to reach and find your partner’s trigger zones, the little hindrances here and there that come in your way, push you to act wilder and make your partner feel even more wanted. Opening his/her buttons or sliding your hands inside their clothes will add to the sex.

Try it out in the trial room

For a quickie in a public place, a trial room is the best place! That ways two of your fantasies are completed. The first, doing it in a public place and the second being, a quick thrust! So tag along with your lover for shopping, for you might just end up doing much more than shop. The fear of being caught at a forbidden location is what pushes couples to enjoy sex like never before. Watching their performance in the trial room mirror or keeping a check of who's standing outside keeps them aroused for a gratifying act.

Sex adventure

Sex combined with some sport makes it more gratifying than anything. Couples seek pleasure while trying out things like bungee jumping, river rafting or trekking. But imagine flying 10,000 feet above the ground in a hot air balloon - there can be no better chance to get intimate with your partner. Such a fantasy might make you dish out the mullah, but the pleasure is surely worthwhile. It brings an immense gratification when you can view the whole world, but no one can see you as you indulge in a sexual session with your beloved.

Getting down dirty, literally!

It’s indeed a crazy fantasy to perform the act in a messy place, but the urge to get wild is what encourages couples to think out-of-the-box and enjoy sexual bliss. As couples get all messy and dirty, they take extra pleasure in wiping the mud off from their partner’s body through their tender touches. These little gestures are a perfect way to stimulate their moan zones for a better performance.

Source: Kanika Sharma

It's not computer's fault blame SEX!

Excessive computer use and working with heavy machinery have long been blamed for causing wrist pain, but according to a top medic, the reason behind the agony is: too much sex.

How does sex cause wrist pain?

Writing in the journal Medical Hypotheses, researcher Dr John Zenian states that repetitive movements during lovemaking puts extra weight on the wrists. This causes carpal tunnel syndrome, reports The Sun.

The syndrome traps nerves, causing pain and numbness. Researcher Dr John Zenian, writing in the journal Medical Hypotheses, says: "Sexual intercourse can explain the increase in the overall incidence of carpal tunnel syndrome seen in recent years, since it is the most widely practised activity that uses both hands at the same time."

Carpal tunnel syndrome is when the nerve which runs from the arm into the hand becomes pressed or squeezed at the wrist, resulting in pain, weakness or numbness.

Source: ANI

Are You a Sex Addict?

Los Angeles: New York Times contributing editor Benoit Denizet-Lewis, who revealed in his blog this week the clinic in Mississippi where Tiger Woods has checked in for treatment, has set off heated debate about sex addiction and its treatments.

Denizet-Lewis, who himself has undergone treatment for sex addiction and just authored "American Anonymous: Eight Addicts in Search of Life," named Monday in his blog Pine Grove Behavioral Health and Addiction Services in Hattiesburg in Mississippi state where Woods has checked in for sex de-addiction.

As news hounds stalk the facility, therapists have weighed in with their opinions whether Woods can really wean himself off sex.

Rob Weiss, executive director of the Sexual Recovery Institute in Los Angeles, told the Los Angeles Times that Woods` story to fit the profile of a sex addict - beginning with his widely circulated telephone message in which he asks a mistress to remove any identification from her voice mail.

Weiss, who has worked with sex addicts for 20 years, told the newspaper that when "people who don`t have a problem, when they get caught or might get caught they understand that they have to stop right away - they will say: `We can`t see each other anymore`. ``

But "here, you have someone in the middle of the consequence and, rather than deal with the consequence, they`re trying to protect and continue the behaviour,`` Weiss added.

He said sex addicts suffer from what he called a "process addiction.`` Instead of craving drugs or alcohol, they act on their adrenaline rush for sex.

Weiss said sex addicts play out a compulsive habit from childhood to perform or entertain. "They learn that in order to be loved, they just need to perform for mom or dad. They don`t learn what makes them happy.``

Though compulsive need for sex is not as commonly accepted as other forms of addiction, it is "a serious affliction,`` he said.

The therapist said sex addicts under treatment are taught to re-valuate and re-orient themselves to learn to live in a new way. But recovery from sex addiction could be trickier, Weiss said. "It is like having an eating disorder. We don`t tell you to stop eating," he explained.

Source: IANS

4 Things He Hides From You!

If you think your guy is always honest to you and tells you everything, think again. There are a lot of things that he might just be hiding from you. Not because he cheating you or something, it is just that he is embarrassed to tell them to you.

His wild friends

Your guy is completely different when he’s around his friends. He knows what you think about all his friends and probably he thinks the same, so he would have no reason to reveal their true self or them to you. He probably loves hanging out with his guys but he might not be indulging himself in all the boyish things that they do. So, If you trust him to behave, you don’t interrogate him about his nights out and avoid bad-mouthing his buddies, he’ll trust you enough to tell you about it all.

His performance on the job

Few things can completely destroy a man’s self-image like poor performance on the job. So when he has not had a good day at work, or may be has a boss who is annoying to the core, he’ll do whatever he can to avoid bringing it up. He might just like to talk about stuff that bothers him, but work is one thing where you need to keep your hands off of it! He still wants you think highly of him, even if the rest of the world does not.

He thinks you are too good for him

Men obviously go after hot girls, and actually getting one can be a huge ego boost. But for some guys, it becomes an ego bust when they question whether they actually deserve you. Your guy would never admit to a similar crisis of confidence, so reassure him by repaying a few of the compliments he no doubt lavishes on you.

His Family Is Crazy

Unfortunately, dysfunctional families are far less funny in real life than they are in prime-time sitcoms. Guys figure they’re a huge relationship red flag for women, so they do their best to keep screwy relatives hidden. And since he can’t keep his family hidden forever, you should always be ready to face the final blow!

Source: Kanika Sharma

Men are different when it comes to SEX

What one man finds sexually desirous, another may not, finds a new study which turns on its head the theory that the same things tend to turn men on. According to the study, conducted by researchers at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction at Indiana University finds that men report a variety of different experiences involving sexual desire and arousal.

Men participating in focus groups expressed a range of experiences and feelings relating to such matters as the relationship between erections and desire, the importance of scent and relationships, and a woman's intelligence.

"We have a lot of assumptions about how men think and feel and behave sexually," said Erick Janssen, associate scientist at the Kinsey Institute. "We use all kinds of methods to measure men's sexual responses; in addition, we use questionnaires and surveys to ask about sexual behaviors. It's less common to sit down with men and ask them to talk about their experiences," Janssen said.

In the study, the focus groups involved 50 men divided into three groups based on their age (18-24 years, 25-45 years and 46 and older). Some examples of the different experiences reported by the men were - some factors, such as depression or a risk of being caught having sex, were reported by some men as inhibiting sex, while other men found that they can enhance their desire and arousal.

An erection is not the main cue for men to know they are sexually aroused. Most of the men responded that they can experience erections without feeling aroused or interested, leading researchers to suggest that erections are not good criteria for determining sexual arousal in men. Many men found it difficult to distinguish between sexual desire and sexual arousal, a distinction prominent in most sexual response models used by researchers and clinicians.

The changes in the quality of older men's erections had a direct effect on their sexual encounters, including, for some, a shifting focus to the partner and her sexual enjoyment. Older men also consistently mentioned that as they aged, they became more careful and particular in choosing sexual partners. The sexual history of women also mattered to the men, but differently for different age groups. Sexually experienced women were considered more threatening by younger men, who had concerns about "measuring up," but such women were considered more arousing for older men.

The findings of the study ultimately could lead to a more effective questionnaire for the dual control model but also can inform research efforts to better understand the variability in sexual behavior. "One of the main conclusions of the focus group study is that, just like women, men are different," Janssen said.

"Sex researchers tend to focus a lot on differences between men and women, while not giving as much attention to the differences that exist among men, and women. This research is part of a larger agenda at the Kinsey Institute of looking at individual differences. This dates back to Alfred Kinsey's original research, but in our current research we not only try to capture the variations in men and women's sexual experiences -- we also try to understand better what explains variations in those experiences," Janssen added. The study is published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior.

Source: ANI

What after cheating on him?

You may really love your guy and have always been there for him in every possible way. But you got to admit to one thing. Occasionally when a hottie crosses your path, you fantasize about him to every possible extent. And when you get an opportunity, you go ahead with it!

But whether it's a kiss or full-on intercourse, oftentimes the subsequent guilt is hard to shake.

Here are a few don’t that you should keep in mind.

Honesty is not really the best policy

Keep your mouth shut! Although it might just make you feel better, if you tell him, but it will only hurt him and ruin the trust between you. Even if the guilt is killing you, let it be your burden to bear. Moreover, no need to blab it out to all your friends. The chances are much more that he might just come to know from other people. Now that would hurt much more!

Why did you do it?

The mere fact that you decided to cheat on your guy, could be because of something not going right in your relationship. Sometimes, women having sex with other men, find it to be an alternative to ease out pressure. Or may be, she is able to find something that her current guy is not able to give her. So, you need to ask yourself, why you did it then take a final decision about you and your relationship.

When he finds out

This could be a possibility when your guy finds out about you not being honest to him. Assuming you still want to be with him, your best bet is to say how sorry you are, swear it'll never happen again, and beg for his forgiveness. Instead of finding excuses and tying to justify your actions, just simply accept your mistake and apologize.

Its your thing

Some women have a tendency to cheat on their guys. It is like an inherited gene. The motive is not very strongly defined it could be just for fun! So men, beware!

Finally, being cheated on can do a number on a person's self-esteem, so you have to stroke the poor boy's ego. Regardless, he will be pissed and might need space. If so, leave him alone until, fingers crossed, he forgives you, if you want to be forgiven that is!

Source: Kanika Sharma

Career Prospects Ruined by Teen Sex!

Los Angeles: Boys and girls who lose their virginity before the age of 16 start thinking of themselves as adults and prefer to go to work than spend three years at college, finds a new study.

The six-year study of more than 5,000 pupils aged 14 to 18, by academics at the University of Glasgow, found that even after allowing for pregnancy, class and social background, there were still more school dropouts among those who lost their virginity earlier.

The research is published in the Journal of Adolescence, reports The Daily Express.

James Turner, policy director at the Sutton Trust said: "Staying on at school or university is one of the surest ways to improve your lot in life, and it is a shame if any group is missing out on this."

Source: ANI

5 Tips to feel super SEXY!

You’re completely fed up with the way your life is shaping up and take yourself to be the most unwanted person around? There was a time when you thought you were this uber cool and ultra sexy individual and those things seem to have completely flown out of the window. Guess it’s the correct time to give yourself just the right reinforcements about your attractive personality and here are a few simple tips that shall help you feel super sexy:

Turn flirtatious
It’s time to say bingo and push just the right buttons. A sexy gesture, a naughty action or a sensuous word is all that you require to show how sexy you are.

Go for spa therapy
Take out sometime for your own self and indulge in spa therapy. Take a head to toe package, from a manicure, pedicure, facial to a scintillating body massage and be rest assured that by the end of your long session you’ll feel nothing but sexy.

Colour your hair
Change the way your hair looks. Go for warm reds, honey browns, or even a bubbly pink or a cute purple. You can even go for highlights.

Turn groovy
When was the last time you took to the dance floor? Long? So, learn a new move or two. Be it Salsa, jive, meringue, absolutely anything will give you the confidence and do the trick for you. Go groovy, go sexy!

Invest in sexy lingerie
Go and buy yourself some really hot and sexy lace and satin lingerie. Try wearing it and see how hot you look and it’s quite obvious that if you’ll look hot, you’ll feel sexy!
Source: Ankita Shukla

Sex for Bed Girls

Want to be a bad girl during sex? Guys dig when women are unbridled and uninhibited, push their own boundaries, break the rules, and ask for what they want.

Here are some naughty qualities that make a woman stand out in bed!

Be the boss:

Guys dig when women are unbridled and uninhibited, push their own boundaries, break the rules, and ask for what they want, As you tantalize him and he strains to touch you, ask him to tell you why he wants you so bad, explaining that you won’t let him free until he convinces you. Once he’s pleaded his case, release his hands, roll onto your back , and allow him to take over. After building up the erotic anticipation, it’ll be like setting a windup toy loose on your body...and hearing him describe how hot you are will turbocharge your experience too.

A Naughty Costume:

To infuse your sex sessions with more attitude, sometimes all it takes is looking the part of a true temptress. One of the ways a woman can really show off her sexuality is by playing up different sides of her erotic personality. If you’re feeling like a flirty, girlie tease, put on a white cotton panty set or pale pink lingerie and pull your hair into a ponytail. To become an X-rated seductress, wear something red or black in sheer fabric or lace, then add crimson lipstick and nails. Outfits not only help you get in the moment, they also give him a visual turn-on and inspiration.

Talk Dirty:

Moans and sighs are easy. It’s the dirty dialogue that really puts a triple-X stamp on your sex sessions. Talking dirty heightens the whole experience, keeps you both present, and turns you on even more. Plus, men actually like being told what to do in bed because it helps them get it right.

Watch Yourselves Having Sex:

Body confidence and carnal curiosity are key traits of a sex goddess, and both are on full display when you make a sex tape. Seeing yourselves midact gives you a voyeuristic thrill, almost as though you’re peeping into your own bedroom. It feels taboo. You also get to see how your partner is responding and how you look when you’re getting off.

Get the Bad Boy Out in him:


It’s a turn-on to feel like he wants you so bad, he just can’t help himself. When he’s being aggressive, you have to fully give up the reins, which can help you be even more in the here and now. Let him know that you’re in the mood but want him to conquer you, even if it means playfully wrestling you to the bed as you try to slip out of his grasp.
Source: Kanika Sharma

Pre-marital sex: Think before you hump!

Women should stay virgin till marriage, says an Australian politician who for 25 years believed he fathered a son with his university girlfriend.

Tony Abbott, a liberal leader, suggested in an interview to be published in Australian Women's Weekly that men and women should try and adhere to ‘the rules’ when it comes to sex before marriage and when they can't, he conceded, they should use contraception, The Australian reported.

Abbott was asked whether he expects his own daughters to remain virgins until they are married. He said all women should regard their virginity as ‘a gift’ that should not be given lightly.

The Sydney MP secretly believed for 25 years he fathered a son with his university girlfriend and had previously conceded he was a pretty lousy role model when it came to avoiding pre-marital sex. His ‘son’ was later revealed to be child of another man.

His university girlfriend Kathy Donnelly revealed that in the pair's struggle not to be ‘sexual’ they were not using contraception when they had sex.

"Tony and I because we were trying not to be sexual, that was the year Tony was thinking about entering the priesthood, we were playing Vatican roulette," Donnelly was quoted as saying.

Source: IANS

Why men get JEALOUS over SEX

Washington: While it has been noted that women cannot digest emotional infidelity and men fail to accept sexual infidelity, new research has suggested that this difference in jealousy goes beyond gender differences.

The researchers said that such differences have more to do with how two people are attached in a relationship.

Research has documented that most men become much more jealous about sexual infidelity than they do about emotional infidelity and women are the opposite.

The prevailing theory is that the difference has evolutionary origins— Men learned over eons to be hyper-vigilant about sex because they can never be absolutely certain they are the father of a child, while women are much more concerned about having a partner who is committed to raising a family.

But now, new study has offered an alternative explanation.

The research does not question the fundamental gender difference regarding jealousy—indeed it adds additional support for that difference.

But the new science suggests that the difference may be rooted more in individual differences in personality that result from one’s relationship history but that can fall along gender lines.

Pennsylvania State University psychological scientists Kenneth Levy and Kristen Kelly doubted the prevailing evolutionary explanation because there is a conspicuous subset of men who like most women find emotional betrayal more distressing than sexual infidelity.

The researchers suspected that it might have to do with trust and emotional attachment.

Some people—men and women alike—are more secure in their attachments to others, while others tend to be more dismissive of the need for close attachment relationships.

Psychologists see this compulsive self-reliance as a defensive strategy—protection against deep-seated feelings of vulnerability.

The researchers hypothesized that these individuals would tend to be concerned with the sexual aspects of relationships rather than emotional intimacy.

They asked men and women which they would find more distressing—sexual infidelity or emotional infidelity.

Participants also completed additional assessments including a standard and well validated measure of attachment style in romantic relationships.

Findings confirmed the scientists’ hypotheses.

Those with a dismissing attachment style— who prize their autonomy in relationships over commitment—were much more upset about sexual infidelity than emotional infidelity.

And on the other hand, those securely attached in relationships—including securely attached men—were much more likely to find emotional betrayal more upsetting.

The scientists state that these findings imply that the psychological and cultural-environmental mechanisms underlying sex differences in jealousy may have greater roles than previously recognized and suggest that jealousy is more multiply determined than previously hypothesized.

The study has been published in Psychological Science, a journal of the Association for Psychological Science.

Source: ANI

Top 5 Myths about Women!

You might just think you know what is it that women want, but are you sure that all that you know is how it goes or are you just giving in to certain pre-conceived myths about women?

So getting you well versed with some myths about women, that are more often than believed to be facts.

Myth No. 1
Women want to talk
Wanting to talk does not mean indulging into a conversation always. Women are not interested in having a one on one conversation with you regarding everything. They really do not want to know your remarks or opinion about what they talk about. They just want to be heard! Women like men who listen to what they have to say rather than just talk.

Myth No. 2
Women want macho men
When you and your woman are at a club and some random guy hits on her you might think that she wants you to stand up to the guy and wrestle it out. However, that just makes you look possessive and crazy, which makes her feel embarrassed. Yes, women want manly men who know their way under the hood of a car and can manage a household budget, but they aren’t impressed by a flashy show of macho behavior.

Myth No. 3
Women want to hear about your feelings
Many women have said they want men who will open up about their feelings. So we welcomed the metrosexual trend, which was not only about men packing on the moisturizer but also about lowering the fortress on their sensitive sides. That’s fine and well, but don’t open your emotional floodgates just for the sake of it or if it’s not your style. When women whine about wanting a man who expresses his feelings, they’re really saying that they want a man who’ll talk about his thoughts and opinions. That makes her feel more included in your world and helps her get to know you. It doesn’t mean she expects any badly written poetry or crying sessions either.

Myth No. 4
Women want to be the center of your life
Real, confident women don’t want to be the center of your life. They are most attracted to men who already have full lives -- friends, activities they love pursuing, passions, and interests. If you revolve your life around her, it can be a turn-off because then you come across as desperate or like you have no life. So, sure, go on and give her a starring role, but don’t make her the only character starring in the skit -- she’ll get bored under the blinding spotlight.

Myth No. 5
Women want you to ditch your female friends
Your girlfriend isn’t bothered that you have female friends. Rather, she probably likes it because it shows her you’re well-balanced and know how to understand women. Not only do you have experience being there during female-related tough times and breakdowns, but if your female friends actually like you it means you know how to relate to women.

Source: Kanika Sharma

5 Risks to Make You More in Love

Love is a game and relationship a gamble.

You need to play safe sometimes to hold on to it and take some risks to make it work at times. But hanging on, by simple thread is what that can make it work. Playing along the line can at times make it strong. Here are a few risks that worth taking…

Cut Back Your Calls to Him

Women are prone to a lot of chit chatting. In fact, they love discussing each and everything as far as talking to their girls is concerned. But you can’t do the same with the guys. It tends to push them away. They start getting a feeling that you are trying to over power their personal space and trying to invade it. Let it go, else he would jus start getting a feeling that you are being needy. Staying a bit aloof, would make him more curious to know what’s happening. Thus, increasing his interest in you even more.

Disagree with His Opinions

It is not necessary for you to agree to whatever he says, always! If you have a different opinion, share it with. Do not blast yourself off and be disrespectful or insult him. Put your point forth in a decent way and try to make him understand that you disagree and why. Men do like women who are contemplative and are able to think rationally. Even though, if you contradict him, it’ll still turn him on!

Do Your Own Thing... and Don't Invite Him

You love each other, so you assume you should spend as much time as possible. But if you stay together for so long, you would end having nothing much to talk about and then each other’s company would only turn out to be boring. Guys love it when they know their girl has a life of her own is not depending on him always as far as socializing Is concerned. So you should definitely have those “just friends” parties where he’s not allowed.

Confront Him with Relationship Issues

You need to speak up if you have certain issues regarding your guy. Keeping quiet does not help. You need to speak it out and let him know what is wrong. The trick is to bring up issues fairly and honestly. Guys need clarity, and they want to make their girlfriends happy, but they just aren't always sure how to go about doing that, so if you let him know exactly what he's not doing and how he can fix it, he's very likely to jump at the chance.

Show Your Love

Contemporary love logic has it that no matter how thrilled by a guy you are, it's better to play down your emotions and hide that buzz because if things don't work out, you won't feel so foolish. But hiding that side of you can backfire, because guys, like women, actually feel pumped up when their partner fawns over them a bit. Plus, if you hide how you feel, he is going to think you're indifferent and may look for someone who is clearly into him. How you reveal your lovestruck, mushy side is important. He's dying to hear words that make him feel special, but go a little too far, and it'll make him panic.

Source: Kanika Sharma

Know what kind of woman your man likes...

London: A new study has proved that men prefer less powerful women.

In the study, led by Gettysburg College in Pennsylvania, psychologists showed positioning of people's photos played a vital role in determining how attractive and powerful he/she is perceived to be by the opposite sex.

According to lead researchers Brian Meier and Sarah Dionne, a powerful person is perceived as one, who stays at the top while less powerful are below.

So when people think of power differences, they literally think of spatial differences too.

During the study, researchers recruited 29 men and 50 women aged 19 were asked to look at images of people and rate their attractiveness on a scale of 1-750.

The participants were shown, in a random order, all of the images and advised that they would see images repeated during the study. Each image was both seen and rated twice. The only difference between the two viewings of each image was that image position was adjusted.

For example, if an image was first viewed on the bottom of the screen, it would later appear on the top.

The researchers discovered that men rated the same images of women as 1.8pct more attractive when the images were on the bottom of the screen than when they were on the top.

Women, in contrast, rated images of men at the top of their screen as 1.5pct more attractive than when those same images were at the bottom.

"That this study shows changes in human attraction because of mere changes in screen position is impressive. This is a big step forward from our reaction-time findings," Nature magazine quoted psychologist Thomas Schubert at the Lisbon University Institute as saying.

These findings could help explain why men in heterosexual partnerships are taller than their partners more frequently than would be expected from the range of heights of men and women.

Men seem to prefer shorter women, and women prefer taller men.

"Height might actually be a cue to power and, as we are finding in our study, attractiveness," said Meier.

Source: ANI

Non-verbal hints to SEX

You absolutely love being with each other and awaiting your first night together. But your guy is a bit shy types and he’s hesitant to break the ice.

You too are not comfortable “saying” your true desires. So what have you thought of doing now?

Why not give him those subtle non-verbal cues to express that you want him in bed.

Here we list some non-verbal hints to let him know your desire…

The breast hug
Give him a tight hug from behind, pressing your breasts against his back. Rub your body against his for a while. Letting people assume that it’s just a cozy hug, you’ve teased him enough and sent across the message subtly.

The DVD fixer
Invite him for a movie at your place. Just when he’s come, tell him that there’s something wrong with your DVD player. While he attempts to fix it, play erotic scenes from Original Sin or some other classic. He’ll be sensible enough to gauge your intentions.

Your tongue in the bottle
When you’re hanging out with him, manage to get a bottle of water. Slide you tongue inside the opening of the bottle, staring suggestively at him. Take note of his reaction as he watches you in amazement.

The swirl with his thumb
You’re watching this action flick together. While you’re holding hands, slowly take his thumb into your mouth. Swirl your tongue around it and give him the best invite ever.

Lock the door
The day he’s dropping you home after this rocking party, ask him to take the car into the garage or the nearest parking lot. Just when he thinks you’re gonna unlock the door to get out of the car, lock the doors. Simply gaze at him from top to bottom as if you’re scanning him all over. Close your eyes after that, expressing your craving for him.

Source: Ekta Oberoi

Do you know these SEX facts?

Sex is a voyage to divulge the concealed assets of satisfaction. And no one can even allege to have known sexuality from tip to toe.
Nobody on earth can master the art of sexuality in a life time as it is so vast, so deep and seamless like the cosmos.

Each person varies from others when it comes to the bulk of sexual experience. It would be motivating to know some of the astounding facts about the sexual act.

• You think only human beings have sex for pleasure? So, it’s time to brush up your knowledge. Dolphins are species that have sex for pleasure.
• Males, on average, think about sex every 7 seconds.
• Throughout the sexual act men sweat more than women as women are able to adjust the amount of water they lose.
• It is not the adults but infants dream more time about sex.
• Throughout World War II, condoms were used to cover rifle barrels from being smashed by salt water as the soldiers swam to shore

Source: Megha Chutervedi

Let her CRAVE for more of SEX

She cares for you, cuddles you, mothers you and showers her love on you all the time. You too love to be with her, play with her, hold her and kiss her. Both of you are completely into each other.

There’s nothing like appreciating your woman while making out. It will instill a feeling of belongingness in her and make her CRAVE for more of SEX…


Adore her body

Your girl might be embarrassed about being complimented for their body, but she surely is gonna love it. Compliment her skin, her figure, and her curves. Rub your body against hers and tell her how sensuous she is.

Appreciate her moves

Your girl might be shy about discussing her performance in bed. Appreciate her gestures and compliment her moves. Tell her how irresistible she is and acknowledge her sexual prowess.

Acknowledge her presence in your life

Now that you’ve told her how attractive you find her physically, appreciate the ‘real’ her. Let her know how much she means to you and how lucky you feel to be with her. She’ll totally be floored!

Thank her for being with you

Every woman likes to be ‘the special one’ for her partner. Express her value in your life and thank her for being with you. Thank her for the love she showers on you and tell her what a wonderful companion she is.

Don’t get enough of her

Once you’re through with your steamy sex session, don’t let her go. Hold her in your arms, kiss her forehead, caress her body and just feel her touch. Man! Your girl would totally be smitten by you. When you would fail to let go of her after the erotic act, she too would surely reciprocate the same and would crave for more of you…

Source: Ekta Oberoi

Sex tips for virgins...

Having sex for the first time is a new experience in itself. With that a lot of apprehensions come into consideration that make you think and wonder about your first time experience.

Here are few tips to make it simple for you...

Do not worry too much about the consequences. If you think you are into it, just do it. But you really need to be sure about it.

Take precaution. Unprotected sex for the first time is not a very good idea, for you do not know how would your body respond to it.

Do not try new things. Try to make it as simple and basic as possible. The more you try new things, the more you might just end up getting into trouble.

Prolong the foreplay. Make sure that both of you are in the right state to finally do it. Else, it might just end up hurting a lot, and could have other health consequences.

Mentally and physically you need to be in a consensus with whatever is happening. Else once its done, it might just have an effect on your emotional ego.

Orals are a must. It just makes things a lot simpler and much more pleasurable as far as first time is concerned.
Source: Kanika Shamra

What He Means When He Cuddles You?

A man really does not share everything. More often than not he would try and convey his feelings to you through certain gestures, and you are expected to understand them.

So here’s decoding some of his cuddly moves...

When he pulls you onto his chest

So here’s a big guy trying to be all tough, well he’s a real softie from within. He is symbolically trying to show it to you that he is attached to you and is also a way of letting you know that he can protect you. He loves taking care of women whether outside or may be even in bed.

Snuggles up to you

The spoon position in bed, when he snuggles up to you curls up his body, when your back is pressed against his front and his hands are free to roam around, well this dude here has a high sex drive. He loves the form of physical touch but not very sure how much is he flexible as far as the emotions are concerned. He believes in actions more than words.

When he puts his head on your lap

If you are someone who loves taking care of her guy, well then you have hit the jackpot. Men who prefer this position tend to be a little needy in relationships and they look to their girlfriends to make them feel good about themselves, He is very comfortable with his emotions and is willing to share what’s on his mind. He just wants to make you happy!

Puts his arm around you

Now this might just be a little disappointing but this is not a very intimate move. It is like the bare minimum he can do. But the good thing here is that he is familiar with your need of cuddling and at least is making an effort to do so. Even though its just for the heck of it. A little guidance and he’ll be just fine.
Source: Kanika Shamra

Top 4 contraception myths busted

Can you believe, few years ago there were few myths related to reproduction like pregnant women in labor were often told to put a knife under their bed to "cut the pain." Young girls were taught that menstruation was unmentionable -- a curse.

Do you know, birth control was illegal until early 1990’s? As contraceptive advance, so too have the myths contiguous their use. How much do you know about birth control types, sex myths, birth control myths, and your chances of becoming pregnant?

Following are few myths that are majorly prevalent in our society about contraception:

• It’s my first time , I cant get pregnant:
Which era are you living in? what has pregnancy to do with first time SEX? Once you have started ovulating even the first time can make you pregnant. A woman's chances for becoming pregnant are always the same, about 1 out of 20 -- even if it is her first time.
This may mean that a person can become pregnant before she even has her very first period (since she ovulates approximately 14 days before her period begins).

• Let’s have SEX during periods
Numerous women (and men) consider this myth. It is probable for a female to get pregnant at any time throughout her menstrual cycle. Commonly, when you are having your period, it means that you are not ovulating. Nonetheless, females with asymmetrical or shorter cycles can actually ovulate during their period. It is not definite that you will ovulate mid-cycle. Sperm can live inside a woman's body for up to 5 days, so if you ovulate anytime within 7 days of having unprotected sex, you could become pregnant.

• Let’s use a balloon
Now, come’ on balloon only make children happy and ‘DO NOT’ help in stopping reproduction. It does not work . Yes, this is a saga floating around out there! Saran wrap is no alternate for a condom. If you do not have a reliable birth control method handy, do not use plastic sandwich wrap around a penis as a way to prevent pregnancy: On a somewhat related note, never use toothpaste in place of a spermicidal (it does not kill sperm -- as many people have heard).
• Stand-up SEX won’t make you pregnant:

Myths adjoining the way you have sex are very common. The most regular one that I hear is that you can't get pregnant if you are standing up while having sex. On a related note, there are stories that you are less likely to get pregnant the fewer times that you have had sex. It depents on the poition but , less likely to prevent you from getting pregnant. So, the only way to protect pregnancy is to use proper protection and not believing in all these myths.
Source: Megha Chutervedi

Still can't find Mr Right?

Lori Gottlieb, a 40-year-old single mother and author of Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough, recommends that women would be happier in the long run if they considered the option of Mr Not Bad rather than relying on finding the perfect man.

"Women are loth to admit it in this day and age, but ask any soul-baring 40-year-old single heterosexual woman what she most longs for in life, and she probably won’t tell you it’s a better career or a smaller waistline or a bigger apartment. Most likely, she’ll say that what she really wants is a husband (and, by extension, a child)," the Guardian quoted Gottlieb as saying.

The writer continued, "We’re conditioned to crave that Big Love. It’s painful how pervasive the fantasy is that The One is out there. We grew up idealising marriage, but if we’d had a more realistic understanding of its cold, hard benefits, we might have done things differently. So we walked away from uninspiring relationships that might have made us happy."

Gottlieb added, "When we’re holding out for romantic love, we have the fantasy that this level of passionate intensity will make us happier. But marry¬ing Mr Good Enough might be equally viable, especially if you’re looking for a reliable life companion.

"What makes for a good marriage isn’t necessarily what makes for a good romantic relationship. Marriage isn’t a passion-fest; it’s a partnership formed to run a very small, mundane and often boring non-profit business. And I mean this in a good way."

Fellow author Elizabeth Gilbert, in her new book, Committed: A Sceptic Makes Peace with Marriage, claimed marriage was not the magical answer for women. She said’ "We marry most often because we are in love and we think it will make us happy. Yet married women are more likely to suffer from depression than are single women. Married women are not as successful in their careers as single women."

She added, "The fact is women generally lose in the exchange of vows."
sOURCE: ANI

Extra Marital Affairs are Good!

That’s the claim of France’s most prominent female psychologist Maryse Vaillant in controversial new book on the effects of infidelity on married life, Men, Love, Fidelity, reports The Telegraph .

Vaillant reckons that men who keep mistresses actually improve their marriage.

"[Most] don’t do it because they no longer love them, on the contrary," she said. "They simply need breathing space. For such men, who are in fact profoundly monogamous, infidelity is almost unavoidable".

Once women accept that the "pact of fidelity is not natural but cultural", and that infidelity is essential to the "psychic functioning" of certain men who are still very much in love, it can be a "very liberating" for women, she added.

In her book, Vaillant insists that fidelity is not, by definition proof of love.

"They are often men whose father was physically or morally absent ... during their childhood. These men have a completely idealised view of their father and the paternal function," she said. "They lack suppleness and are prisoners to an idealised image of a man of duty."
Source: ANI

Do all Men want SEX?

The allegations of extra-marital affairs are often associated with men who are perceived to be promiscuous. However, new findings have tried to debunk the stereotype thinking.

As a part of our culture, the general perception is that men lack emotions and only desire sexual relationships.

However, a study reveals that while men have more partners than women, most men only have one partner at a time. Majority of men do seek emotional connection with their partner.

Majority of men do seek emotional connection with their partner.

The common belief that tags men to be promiscuous is also an effect of what people see in television characters such as Fonzie in Happy Days, Hawkeye Pierce in Mash, Sam Malone in Cheers, Joey Tribbiani in Friends and Charlie Harper in Two And A Half Men.

The high profile scandals involving public figures only add to the common mis-perceptions of men’s sexual behaviour. The question is , does the media reflects reality or creates reality?

Source: Agency

Getting dressed for your FIRST DATE

All ready to take her out on a date? Decided the time and venue? How about dressing up? Yes, what are you gonna wear on your first date?

Didn’t really think of about that, right? Here are some tips that will help you decide what you can wear on your first date...


Dress up according to the venue
The venue for the date will decide the kind of clothes you should wear. If you’re taking her out to a lounge or resto bar or movie, go for a relaxed, casual look. However, if you’ve booked a table at a five-star restaurant, then choose dressier, semi-formal attire.

Choose neat, ironed, well-fitted clothes
Please stay away from that shirt no matter how much you like it. Never wear too baggy clothes. At the same time, don’t puff yourself as if you’re in an airtight jar! Go for an appropriate, well-fitted set of clothing to make just the perfect impact.
Also make sure the garments you wear are neat, tidy and well-ironed.

Don’t carry excess baggage
Even if you’re planning to reach the venue just after office, make sure you leave your laptop behind. Also, leave behind all the official files and folders and don’t make her feel that you are over burdened with work. However, carry a classy wallet to carry cash and credit/debit cards.

Choose your accessories wisely
Wear nicely polished shoes. Wear the watch that compliments your attire. If you’re wearing a tucked in shirt, choose the right colored belt.

Ask a friend for an opinion
If you’re not sure weather the new set of clothes you bought for the special day suit you, don’t hesitate in asking your friends for an opinion. After all, it’s better to ask than to assume and end up a fashion disaster.

Go for a quick dress-rehearsal
Plan and prepare yourself well in advance on what you want to wear. Try on the clothes to check if the buttons are well in place and the zips working fine. Move around a little to make sure that the shoes don’t hurt, just in case she wishes to take a stroll after dinner.

Dress to enhance your personality
Wear clothes that suit your personality. Opt for colors that enhance your appeal. Just relax and be comfortable in your skin.

If its winters, carry a jacket along with to offer her if it’s chilly. Finally, carry a small gift for her, turn on your charm and make the most of your first date!

Source: Ekta Oberoi

Digging deep inside his pants!

You’ve exchanged enough looks with each other. A second date seems to be on the cards, but you wanna get more of him this time.

He asked you for a cuppa coffee post dinner and this seems to be a good opportunity for you to give way to your desire.

Here’s a list of sure shot ways to dig deep inside his pants…


Touch

A touch can express what you exactly want. There are different kinds of touches and men are smart enough to recognize a woman’s touch. When you’d touch him, he’d surely interpret your latent desire.

G-spot

Enough has been said about tickling about G-spots to arouse your partner. Try it for yourself and tickle his erogenous zone to arouse his fantasies.

Massage

A soothing massage works as a catalyst to induce energy and stimulation. Begin with a gentle neck massage and leave the rest to him; he’ll guide you to the destination himself.

Kiss

Nothing would arouse him more than a passionate kiss. A deep smooch will open your way for you to dig deep inside his pants.

Source: Ekta Oberoi

Your body language to tell if you're in LOVE

Melbourne: Katy Perry and Russell Brand may be deeply in love but will their relationship last forever? Well, body language experts are trying to calculate exactly that through their pics.

And it's not just the newly engaged duo; the experts have put other celebrity couples to the ultimate test to work out how long they have.

George Clooney and Elisabetta Canalis

An expert says that despite rumours that Elisabetta is the woman who will end George's long-time bachelorhood, their body language suggests this isn't a long-term love story. "They're only leaning into each other from the waist up. A big gap between partners hips and groins often suggests lack of a sexual chemistry," the Daily Telegraph quoted Loisel-Furey as saying. "George has a tight grip on Elisabetta's hand, but it looks awkward. "He's so used to being a bachelor, he's posing as though he's forgotten she's even there; she's just arm-candy. "The dramatic tilt in George's shoulders and his stony expression show that he isn't at all comfortable with her being there," Loisel-Furey added.

Russell Brand and Katy Perry

Allan Pease, author of The Definitive Book Of Body Language, says that Russell Brand is exhibiting some odd behaviour with new fiance Katy Perry. "Previous photographs of Russell with girlfriends show he's always the one who calls the shots in his relationships. However, in this photo, Katy is walking slightly ahead, showing that she's the boss," Pease said. "Although, for the moment, these two appear to have found some sort of balance, there's a strong chance this relationship won't last. Their body language isn't mirroring each other, which usually means they don't share the same mutual beliefs and values. I'd say this is an intense affair that probably won't last the distance," Pease added.

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie

Pease says Brangelina are most photographed, most talked-about couple in the world, and the constant rumours that they've split up show in their body language. "They've been together six years and, for most of that time, their body language has been perfectly in sync. Judging by a picture, Pease says they're struggling to maintain their emotional connection . "Angelina has a strong grip on Brad's jacket; by holding on to him fiercely, she's making it clear to everyone that he's her property. "Although she's smiling, her slightly narrowed eyes and turned-down lips betray her true feelings. She's not happy at all," he add.

Source: ANI

Top 12 SEX facts

The Fox news has gone ahead and listed out the sex findings of 2008 that repeated the same old facts. Though 'sex sells' however the media did not provide the public with any new findings.

1. Attractive people probably have more sex:

Men with 'masculine' faces and women with 'attractive' faces reportedly had more of casual sex, as concluded by the Researchers at the University of Durham in Britain.

2. Unplanned pregnancy affects her quality of life:

Unintended pregnancy takes a toll on the woman's life, the old fact reported by the Research in the September issue of Contraception did not offer anything new.

3. Porn as sex educator:

A study by the Austrian Institute for Sexual Education re-reported that the Austrian males seeked pornography as a means of sex information, nothing new.

4. She's good to ride horses:

Horseback riding does not affect a female's sexual health, this was verified by Dr. Shaheen Alanee and colleagues at the University of Minnesota.

5. Methamphetamine use makes for risky sexual behaviors

Usage of methamphetamine is associated with risky sexual behaviors and adolescent pregnancy, the findings did not come as a surprise as it has long been known that substance abuse is associated with risky sexual behavior. The fact was reported by a research in the Journal of School Health.

6. He said/she said:

The gender divide on the out look of sex was once again highlighted by research in the College Student Journal. The study talked about how oral sex was not viewed as sex by the men whereas the women very much thought that it is a sexual act. The same views goes by cybersex, where the men do not link it with cheating and the women thought it very much was cheating. Lastly, men believe that the frequency of sex drops after marriage, while the women thought otherwise.

7. It's okay to pressure her:

Teenaged boy thought it was alright to pressurize a girl in to having sex and many a times used alcohol to lure them in to bed. The fact was reconfirmed in a research by Sheffield University in England.

8. Condoms make for less pleasure

Researchers at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University found that women who used condoms, whether solo or with other hormonal methods, reported

9. Ugh! It's Brad and Jen all over again

Ridiculous as it may seem, but an investigation conducted at Queen's University Belfast found the obvious-sexual infidelity was more upsetting for men, whereas emotional unfaithfulness was more distressful for women. Also, it was found that men think that women have sex when they're in love.

10. Intra ... what?

IUD - intrauterine device was widely unknown by more than 60 percent of 14- to 24-year-old females. This was uncovered in a survey conducted in September 2008 issue of Contraception. The findings were not new, as the youth do not receive education on contraception.

11 It''s all in your head:

Sex is a mind-body-soul experience as told by the sexologists, with the brains as the largest sex organ. However a portuguese study this year reported that men''s concern over erection negatively correlated with sexual arousal. For women, lack of erotic thoughts and failure to control intrusive thoughts were found to impact their sexual response.

12. Parents want comprehensive sex education:

A study in the Journal of Adolescent Health once again found that nine out of 10 parents want their children to be educated on both contraception and abstinence. Parents have declared since long that they want their children to get information that protects them from pregnancy, HIV, and STDs

Source: AGENCY

How reliable are LIVE-IN RELATIONS?

New Delhi: Live-in relations, considered taboo a decade ago but quite prevalent nowadays in the metros, often end up in separation due to lack of commitment, say experts.

With many couples going for such arrangements in big cities, the society has also opened its doors for Western ways of life. Even the Supreme Court recognised such relations on a par with marriage if the couples are together for a long time, but these are only temporary arrangements, experts feel.

"India is going the Western way in terms of family life and the wide bridge that existed between Indian marriage system and Western world just a generation ago is slowly dwindling," says expert counsellor Dr Gitanjali Sharma.

"Far away from home, more and more couples opt for living together in big cities due to sheer attraction. In the quest for love and support, they ignore things like cultural difference, family background and financial constraints," Sharma told reporters.

"But the things they initially ignore, start cropping up again and again with time creating a rift. Not only this, once the euphoria ends, lack of commitment and infidelity takes away the charm of the relationship," she says.

"I was staying with Samir for the past five years and we were planning to get married but one day when I returned from work earlier than usual I caught him in bed with my landlord`s daughter and that was the last day when I saw him," says government employee Nilima.

Says counsellor and psychologist Dr Dherandra Kumar, "These couples do not usually have the moral obligation towards their partners and in the absence of any pressure from the parents as most of these cases remain hidden from the family, they end up in break ups."

"Unlike married couples, who think themselves committed and responsible towards their spouses, those in live-in arrangements feel free from any such obligations and
start seeing others."

However, the failure is more because of male partners as they somehow believe their girlfriends or wives should obey their orders, the counsellors reason.

"Today`s women are more independent, ambitious and confident, they like to take their own decisions and have no desire to become a shadow of their male counterparts. But the male partners fail to understand these as they want to take things on their hand, marking the end of the love stories," says Dr Sudha Salhan of Safdurjung Hospital.

Agreeing with her, Dr Sharma adds, "Gen Next women are like genie out of a bottle, so when men attempt to send them into the bottle again they revolt. Thus for the success of any relationship, it is necessary that boy should understand his girl`s desire and she gives sufficient time to him to change his mentality.

"The couples who get married also face these problems because while a woman remains the same even after tying the knot, man changes drastically. Men want their wives to take responsibility of their parents and behave like a traditional daughter-in-law, but women still want to remain independent like before."

Another reason for the failure is impractical expectations.

"Couples should look beyond what they are seeing and discuss their roles openly as for a short term, the partners behave ideally but after marriage boys prefer to remain out of the domestic chores," Dr Kumar points out.

But Dr Salhan blames work-related stress for such petty quarrels.

"As most of such couples are employed, work stress takes its toll. So division of responsibility is must for a flourishing relationship," Salhan says.

"It is important that the couples have the support of their family and the society so that these hurdles could be won," she says but cautions "Use of birth control is necessary in such relations as it is a lot more fun and romantic to get married because one wants to, not because one accidentally got pregnant".
Source: PTI

5 ORGAZM myths BUSTED !!

When we talk of sex, the discussion often ends with talking about the BIG O. Even today, there are so many myths surrounding the very climax of sexual intercourse.

To simplify, we list for you some myths around orgasm…

Condom = No Orgasm
The most common of all myths is that if your wear a condom, you can never orgasm. Condoms decrease the sensitivity of the organ during intercourse, but it otherwise doesn’t interfere with the ability of one to orgasm.

No Orgasm = No Satisfaction
It is untrue that a woman can feel satisfied only through orgasm. The fact is that a woman can still feel satisfied if you connect with her emotionally and engage in foreplay. It is not necessary for a woman to orgasm after every sexual encounter.

Small Size = No Orgasm
The age-old myth busted. Size really doesn’t matter for a woman when it comes to orgasm! The G-spot is located just two inches deep within the vagina, so even a smaller size enough to make a woman orgasm.

Women cannot ejaculate
It is believed that women cannot ejaculate. The fact is that they can. Women ejaculate primarily through G-spot stimulation and the substances are similar to what males ejaculate. But, the truth is also that not all women ejaculate.

Vaginal orgasms are better than clitoral orgasms
Not every woman has chances of achieving vaginal orgasms and they occur quite infrequently. Clitoral orgasms are equally enjoyable. The fact is that both occur through different stimulations, but both are absolutely pleasurable and satisfying.
Source: Ekta Oberoi

Difficult relationship? blame obesity

Dr. Janet D. Latner, an Associate Professor of Psychology at the University of Hawaii at Manoa said that heavier women had lower quality relationships, which they predicted were more likely to end.

However, it wasn't the case when men's B.M.I. was associated with their relationship functioning. "Prejudice and discrimination are commonly directed at overweight individuals,' said Dr. Latner. She further corroborates: 'However, few previous studies have examined whether weight stigma occurs within established romantic relationships. Our results suggest it does."

The study also showed that male partners of heavier women also judged the women's bodies less positively and men rated heavier women as poorer matches to their ideal partners for attractiveness and vitality.

What is as important as SEX?

As it is well known that appetizers before the main course increase the tang of the food. Sex is somewhat similar to having food. One should always have foreplay prior to intercourse as it acts as an appetizer.

It is the one thing women can't get enough of -- OK, there are a few other things as well, but foreplay is an important one. In general terms, women are emotional creatures, and that's why they like, enjoy and often need foreplay.

Opposed to their male counterparts, women aren't raring to get down to it. This is because their bodies need trickery for the lust and lubrication required for intercourse and their emotions dictate that they feel a sense of closeness and mutual respect with their partner.

Your female partner would feel uneasy if you’ll simply jump her bones, she'll feel like a tool or a machine designed to get you off. Now, each woman is different, and some might like to bump ugliest without any foreplay, but the odds are that your girl will need to grease the wheels first.

Below are top five ways to start the game…..

Talk naughty

Through foreplay, the power of suggestion can be as great as the sex itself for many women. If you can describe how you want to touch her, where, and with which of your body parts, she'll visualize it easily and eagerly. And if you know how to have sex with her brain (it is a major sexual organ), you bet she'll be begging you to have sex with the rest of her in due time.


In public… not a bad idea
Foreplay doesn't need to be constrained to the bedroom or inside four walls. If you and your partner don't start crying at the thought of public displays of affection (PDA), try doing some fun things out in the open. This would surely turn your partner on for the next part of the evening.

Strip down
Strip shows aren't just for men any longer; women have gotten shrewd to the idea of having men execute a peel dance for them. If you remove your clothes slowly (especially if you have a great body), remove your socks before you do anything; they're awkward and nothing turns a woman off faster than seeing a naked man with his socks on. Now that you're set to go, start by removing your shirt

Give her oral pleasure
Every woman is diverse and, therefore, every woman likes to be touched differently. However, the same techniques that you hopefully used in high school are still effective in the majority of women.

When she spreads her legs a bit, that's a clear indication that she wants you to touch her a little deeper. Read your girlfriend's body language for a sign of what you should do.


Watch some sex
Porn can be a great way to get you and your girl in the mood, provided that your girlfriend is the type who enjoys adult entertainment. Put on something that both of you can enjoy (preferably other couples having sex and something tailored to women), and lay naked with each other while you watch it. Remember that an "accidental" caress here and there is perfectly acceptable, even preferable.

Every now and then, stop watching the movie and kiss her or play with her body. Make sure to pay more attention to her than you do to the movie. As well, if you see something kinky that you'd like to try, make a comment about it and gauge her response, which will give you an indication of whether or not she's game. The idea here is to get her imagination going.

Source: Megha Chutervedi

Men can ‘sniff out’ ovulating women

Forget exotic smelling perfumes, for a new study has shown that going au natural may be the best way to capture men's attention, as women's smell makes testosterone soaring – especially when they are ovulating.

Smells are known to be critical to animal mating habits, as various studies have shown that male testosterone levels are influenced by odour signals emitted by females, particularly when they are ovulating (that is, when they are the most fertile). In the new study, conducted by psychological scientists Saul L. Miller and Jon K. Maner from Florida State University, women wore tee shirts for 3 nights during various phases of their menstrual cycles. Male volunteers smelled one of the tee shirts that had been worn by a female participant.

In addition, some of the male volunteers smelled control tee shirts that had not been worn by anyone. Saliva samples for testosterone analysis were collected before and after the men smelled the shirts. They found that men who smelled tee shirts of ovulating women subsequently had higher levels of testosterone. Men found the shirts worn by ovulating women most pleasant smelling.

The authors noted, "The present research is the first to provide direct evidence that olfactory cues to female ovulation influence biological responses in men." The study suggests that testosterone levels may be responsive to smells indicating when a woman is fertile. The authors conclude that this biological response may promote mating-related behaviour by males.

Source: ANI