It has been quite some time that you and your partner haven’t had a long conversation or haven’t been out for dinner, just the two of you. He is too busy with his work, even on weekends.
You are certain that something has gone wrong but are not able to figure out what. Though openly not been communicated but you suspect that your partner is no more in love with you.
“My space”: Being in a relationship is about sharing each other’s space. Though the boundaries are definitely drawn, but still one is definitely a part of the other’s space in a major way. The “Me, myself and I” factor doesn’t quite exist there. The moment your guy starts asking you to leave him “alone”, needs “privacy” or may be even leaves the house abruptly without telling you, one of the first symptoms of wanting to stay away.
“I’m busy”: Every time you call him, either is phone is coming busy or he disconnects your call. Initially even those five minutes of free time that he used to get, he used to call you. Leave apart the fact about calling you he doesn’t even want to take your call, even though he is free.
“Now is not a good time”: You really want to talk to him. Unlike before, he just does not want to listen to what you have to say, could be anything that you really want to talk about. Probably, share some thoughts with him. But every time you try to initiate a conversation with him, he finds an excuse to walk out of it.
“Later”: A very common term, quite often used to delay an argument or an explanation. Now he just doesn’t have time for you, to listen to you, to be with you, to spend time with you. He is too tied up in his own little world, and this has no room for you in that. So he resorts to the final option of “avoiding” you.
“I’m tired, can I get some sleep”: Some of the lamest excuses to avoid you that you can’t even argue upon. “I am really feeling unwell”, “I’m tired”, “Have had a long day”, “I have a bad headache” and the best, “I really need to sleep”! All that is expected out of you is to “understand”.
These are few indications of your partner being disinterested in you and not wanting to be with you anymore. High time, you get the hint, and let it go…
Source: Kanika Sharma
